TIPS, GUIDES AND ARTICLES
Please explore the links below for a mix of guides, tips and articles that Miss Erica Storm has been commissioned to write.
An abstract of a conversation between myself and an instagram follower
As an international dominatrix who trains other women in how to feel confident and empowered by dominant play, I shared some insights along with explaining a common misconception about being a dominant female in the bedroom.
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CONSENT AND BDSM: WHAT LESSONS CAN WE LEARN FROM A PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX?
The theme of Sexual Health Week 2021 is Consent: Do You Get It? In this blog, we hear from Madam Storm, International Dominatrix, writer, teacher, speaker and women’s empowerment coach about what we can learn about consent from the BDSM.
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HOW BEING A PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX GAVE ME SEXUAL LIBERATION
Madam Storm breaks down how becoming a part of the BDSM community led to empowerment and why self-pleasure is so important.
Click on the link below to read Madam Storm’s article for gal-dem, an online and print publication committed to sharing perspectives from women and non-binary people of colour.
DOMINATING LIFE WITH MADAM STORM
Clear Voice, the podcast where successful women speak about how they found their voices and are using them for change, spoke to international dominatrix and founder of the STRUT masterclasses, Madam Storm and discussed how she found her voice by doing some serious introspection and working out who she truly was. Offering some great tips for your own journey of introspection, introducing kink in the bedroom along with a lot of laughs, and a little vagina chat along the way.
STRUTS AND SELF ESTEEM WITH MADAM STORM
Madam Storm joins Florence and Reed in the studio. F**ks Given' with Come Curious presents an honest and candid exploration of their guests’ sexual histories, from the first f**k to the best f**k and even the bad, average and comical ones in between. Each episode is an uncensored look at what’s gone on beneath the sheets with a variety of coveted guests in a bid to break the stigma around sexual histories and specifically the ‘number’ taboo.
MADAM STORM’S GUIDE TO FETISHES AND BDSM FOR ANN SUMMERS
Madam Storm teaches the beauty of playing both dominant and submissive roles and how to use practical toys and equipment to enhance pleasurable experience in a mature and fun way. Ann Summers, the iconic empire and multi channel retailer, asked her to share some insight around fetishes and BDSM.
MADAM STORM’S OPINION FOR METRO WEBSITE ON NETFLIX’S BONDING
Netflix’s Bonding wasn’t accurate but it gave an insight into my world as a dominatrix.
METRO PODCAST GOOD SEX BAD SEX
The award winning Metro podcast Good sex bad sex interviewed Madam Storm on the art of seduction whilst being on her Berlin tour and invited her back to the London office for her second interview on “How to STRUT”.
She chats to Bibi and Miranda about feeling sexy, looking confident the business of strutting. Plus Madam Storm gives Bibi a lesson in how to strut! Check out Madam Storm’s interviews below.
Metro Podcast Good sex bad sex STRUT Masterclass
https://audioboom.com/posts/7555953-a-strut-masterclass
Metro Podcast Good sex bad sex Art of Seduction
REFINERY 29
As well as being an international dominatrix and Torture Garden celebrity, Madam Storm is a motivational speaker who specialises in the empowerment of women. She is also a confidence coach, stage and nightclub performer, and founder of her own Strut Masterclasses.
Katy Harrington of refinery29.com asked her to tell us what goes on in a 1-1 with a client and everything else we've always wondered about the world of domination.
FAB MAGAZINE
Madam Storm’s 6 steps to Strutting with confidence – The Power Strut
COCKTAILS AND COCKTALK
Madam Storm, international dominatrix and regular fixture at renowned fetish night Torture Garden, is offering Londoners the chance to learn the art of seduction, spanking and self-confidence in a workshop later this month at Hoxton Square Bar & Kitchen.
In the run-up, Madam Storm is sharing seven of her sexiest seduction techniques.
HOW DO I WALK IN HIGH HEELS
The number one question I get asked is How do I walk in heels?
Below is my is my easy 6 step guide on how to walk in your heels confidently. You might be surprised that the first step on learning how to walk in your heels is working on how you feel about yourself.
STEP 1
Whatever your mind is thinking your body will show, prepare your mind-set before leaving the house with positive affirmations; I am beautiful, I am sexy, I am confident, I own my space, I AM HERE and the golden rule is what others think of you is none of your business!!
STEP 2
Stand tall with your core engaged and shoulders back, arms by your side, your arms will naturally swing which is ok, after all, you want to look as natural as possible being sexy and confident should always look effortless. If you’re carrying a handbag put it over your shoulder or hold it in your hand whilst your other hand remains by your side.
STEP 3
Step with the right foot first, heel down followed by the soul of the foot, once your right foot is firmly on the ground, step with the left leg, you can cross your legs over if desired.
STEP 4
Always look forward, head in a neutral position but scanning your surroundings, you wouldn’t want to be strutting your stuff and get your heel caught in a drain or worse gum!
STEP 5
Your body language needs to be open, Strutting is all about strutting into your power, you want it to say I’m a woman who’s comfortable in my body and I own my space.
STEP 6
Have a strong strut but a relaxed face after all you want to be approachable. Body language is key so smile with your eyes and have a little swing in your hips.
Click here for more information about Private 1 to 1 Strut Masterclasse and learn how to walk sexy and confidently in your stilettos.
HOW TO SEDUCE YOUR HUSBAND BOYFRIEND OR LOVER
How do I seduce my husband? How to seduce my boyfriend? How do I seduce my lover? Are the questions my ladies who sign up for my private Art of Seduction Programme rest assured ladies below will help you understanding how to seduce your partner and be sexually confident.
STEP 1
Learning how to seduce yourself is the first step to being a seductress, practice touching yourself seductively in the mirror, look at how your body moves and fall in love with yourself, take note on how your hair falls down your neck, how your back arches when you bend over, the beauty spot on your inner thigh. Know your body inside out. See yourself as a seductress and create a character that allows you to express yourself freely and have fun with it.
STEP 2
Know your partners love language, what works for Susie’s boyfriend may not work for yours, we all have different needs, desires and wants, ask your partner what he/she wants, I believe successful relationships have great communication, have fun exploring one another’s desires.
STEP 3
Self grooming, is a must for any seductress, taking care of yourself is a sign of self love, it says I’ve taken the time to worship myself and you will do the same.
STEP 4
Set the mood, create a lovers playlist, play something that makes you feel sexy and sensual, light some candles I always find the ones that are scented to be better or light an incense. Now, of course, the mood can be set by your actions as well as your environment, you are in charge if you want a fun night set a fun mood, be playful. If you want a kinky mood where your partner calls you Mistress then set that intent!
STEP 5
Use seductive language, words are like spells so cast them carefully, the tone of how you speak is what will turn your partner on, the pace is also important, your language will heavily depend on the mood you want to set and the role you are playing.
STEP 6
Move slowly, everything is to be admired if you are seducing your lover by touching yourself erotically or seducing him/her by sensual dancing it’s important to touch yourself in the way that you want your partner to touch you, turn yourself on and by doing so he or she will naturally be aroused and remember where ever your hands wonder their eyes will go.
STEP 7
Make it look effortless and seduce in a way that comes naturally to you. If you are a lady that has yet to find her seductress within, go on a journey of self-discovery. Its great fun!!!!!
SEXUAL CONFIDENCE QUESTIONS
QUESTION 1
I would like to be more confident around women, how should I act?
I advise to always be yourself, engage with him or her with open body language, keep eye contact, smile and be charismatic. Whether you're a man or a woman, we are all attracted to a confident person. Ask her questions about herself and reply to show you understand her. Be genuine in your interest, in what she’s saying..
QUESTION 2
How do you tell your partner you want more affection and sex?
I believe communication is the key to a successful relationship. Have an honest conversation with your partner, tell them how much you love them and you’d like to express this more by having more sex and showing affection to one another.
QUESTION 3
How do I give a lap dance in a classy way?
The best way to give a lap dance when you’re a newbie is to keep it really simple; no need for splits or attempting to put your leg over your shoulder, haha.
Step 1
Choose an outfit that’s easy to get undressed. Wear his work shirt with heels. Use his tie to tie him up. Just a few of many ideas you can do. A sexy dressing gown is also exciting and easy to undress, perhaps with a sexy lingerie set underneath.
Step 2
Practice your sexy strip tease in the mirror to your chosen track. Keep it slow. Keep eye contact and remember wherever your hands go his/her eyes will follow. If you’ve attended one of my STRUT Masterclasses, use the Pussy cat, Peacock or the Seductress Strut to seduce him/her.
Keep relaxed and have fun with it. If you're feeling brave introduce sensual movement, nice slow movements of the hips and don’t be afraid to touch yourself.
Step 3
Set the scene Light some candles. Play your sexy music and start your seduction!
QUESTION 4
How do I turn on my partner without feeling like I look silly?
The first thing I teach my ladies in my Art of Seduction Programme is that you must learn how to seduce yourself before being able to seduce others. First thing is to address the inner critic - that voice telling you you’re not sexy and confident. The voice that’s making you feel that you’d look silly being sensual. Give her a name and then tell her to take a seat and watch. In other words tell her to fuck off. Create instead a character that you wanna be in that moment. This is the beginning of you becoming more confident. Once you’ve named your new character, start to think about how she’d stand, walk and move. Here are some exercises to help you get in the flow.
Practice sensual movement in the mirror to your favourite song that makes you feel sexy
View yourself in the mirror daily and tell yourself how beautiful and sexy you are
Feel good about yourself! Exercise; get you hair done; show yourself some love and affection
Do your affirmations for a week or two beforehand, I am confident, I am sexy, I love my body.
Feel comfortable and confident with your body
Set the scene. Light some candles. Play sexy music. Set him or her a bath. Wear something sexy. Do your hair and make up. Wear a nice perfume. This will let your partner know its sexy time and it will give you a chance to settle your nerves.
Remember your partner loves you and already views you as a beautiful woman. This is all about how you view yourself. Confidence is sexy, so be confident and enjoy it. Your partner wants to receive this level of attention from you, so have fun. Don’t try to be perfect, just be yourself. And the more you do it the better you’ll be a sexy seductress.
QUESTION 5
How to feel it when you're just not feeling it in the everyday?
There are times that we as women don’t feel sexy. Many factors can play a part in this. The time of the month, busy week with work or the kids and you’re feeling absolutely shattered. I get it!
However, it's important to take time out to pay attention to ourselves and our own needs.
The best way to get your sexy back is to turn the attention on yourself. View yourself as the beautiful, sensual goddess that you are. Here are some affirmations to do whilst introducing touch. These can be done while you’re oiling your skin or showering in the shower.
I am beautiful
I am enough
I am exquisite
Set yourself a Goddess bath with sensual oils. Light some candles and relax. Use this time to recharge and disconnect. Listen to soft music or meditation music. This is your time to be with you.
Grooming and feeling sexy for yourself!
It's important that you feel sexy for you. I encourage healthy eating and exercising as it helps with energizing the body. Great for mind and spirit as well as body. Once we work on the inside, the outside is easy to do. Feel good and look even better.
I always feel great once I’ve done my grooming, eyebrows on fleek, legs and vagina shaved. (Yes, I shave because the last time I got waxed it felt like she was ripping my vaginal lips out haha.)
Hair done, skin looks great because of all the water I’ve drunk and all the fresh fruit I've eaten.
Don’t underestimate the power of music. Play your jam in the mornings. Dance around and be happy. Stand in the mirror with your hands on your hips and say: I am here, I am confident, I am a woman. This will help your confidence grow!!
HOW TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS
What are goals? How do we achieve them? How do we deal with obstacles?
My clients often find achieving goals challenging due to work and family commitments. Others don’t know where to start, and some believe it's too late to fulfil their desires; believing their goals are just dreams that will never become a reality!
I'm here to tell you that it's never too late. No matter what your circumstances are or what your financial situation is, you can achieve anything you put your mind to. Once the mind can create it, you can achieve it.
This article is summary of key things you can do to achieve your dreams and live the life you desire. It's very simple! No jargon - just clear steps to lead you to fulfilling your goals. Everyone deserves to live a life full of love health and happiness with balance and contentment.
The first step
Have a clear vision. Be clear on what you want to achieve. Make sure you are driven by passion and not money. Trust that your passion will in return give you wealth. Too many of us our driven by money, but this does not bring happiness or contentment. Living a life with no contentment means you are never happy! So what is the point?
The second step
Visualize your goal. Be at one with your goal. Make it so clear you can touch it. Be in the moment. Feel the passion and the desire that burns within you, as this is what you will rely on to motivate yourself and keep you going when doubt starts kicking in.
The third step
Write down your goal. Ask yourself what do I need to do to achieve this goal? Ask yourself do I need to do research? Do I need to do a course? You may need finance to help you, and if so, how will you go about getting this loan? The important thing is not to get overwhelmed, just take small steps one at a time.
The fourth step
Write out your strategy. Have a 10-year plan. Complete a timeline - include family and friend time, be sure to include Me Time. This will allow you to regenerate! Having a balanced life is KEY! Create a success list, then ask yourself what is the ONE thing I need to focus on today this week this month this year? In order to make my business/personal life successful, write your goals on a white board and keep it visible. Visualise your goals like dominos once one has set off, the rest will follow.
The fifth step
Protect your goal. Learn how to say 'no'! Do not allow anyone or anything to stand in your way. Keep believing in yourself and never ever give up! Remember, you deserve to live your dream and are capable of fulfilling your aspirations. Create a vision board and continue to visualise your goals. If you desire a successful company, imagine yourself at your desk...
The golden rule
Take responsibility and be honest with yourself. Choose today! Do you want to be a loser or a winner? Winners don't live in the past; they use their experiences - good or bad- to influence their present. You are no longer a victim, but a survivor; a warrior of life. Your battles make you a better fighter and your wounds are just reminders of the battles you have overcome. It shows your strength and is a reminder of where you were. Now, let's get you ready for the future!
Helpful Tips
When in self-doubt, have a word with yourself. Be honest about the reason(s) why you're doubting your ability. Could it be that you're scared? Scared of what others may think? Scared of failure? Scared of showing everyone how much you want something? This is called fear. Fear is just a reminder that you're doing something new; something worthwhile. Trust in yourself and step outside your comfort zone. There is no shame in not succeeding the first time; the best lessons are learnt this way. Take note and learn from it and try again, but this time you be better prepared you will be a person who has learnt from their mistake(s) you would of learnt about your strengths and weaknesses. Be prepared to make many more mistakes and enjoy the journey and the excitement of perfecting your goal, keep growing, keep going and NEVER GIVE UP!
Everyone deserves to live their dreams. Start today. Start now. Start this very minute and STRUT into your POWER!!!!
TO ALL MY BEAUTIFUL LADIES
Dear sister,
Who told you, you wasn’t beautiful,
Who told you, you wasn’t perfect in your form,
My sister who taught you not to love yourself unconditionally.
My sister you are beautiful, a piece of art,
You are the artist a perfect picture,
Dip your brush into your colourful aura.
Your beautiful smile says a thousands words,
You are perfect in your form,
You are unique in every way.
My beautiful sister, you are enough,
You are beauty,
You are light,
You are magic,
Allow love in.
Love yourself unconditionally,
Dip your brush into your beautiful aura,
You are the creator,
You are the artist of your life,
Paint a pretty picture.
Let the world hang your art upon a wall,
Let us see your true beauty,
You are PERFECT in your form.